Following the Majority
Marital problems are increasingly widespread among members of the Lord’s church. Just as in the Mosaic Age, some wish to imitate the customs of the majority, among which is the practice of divorcing one’s spouse for any reason.
They are like the Israelites who said to Samuel, “Appoint for us a king to judge us like all the nations” (1 Samuel 8:5,20). They wanted to be like the rest of the world. God, however, told their forefathers, “Take care that you be not ensnared to follow them” (Deuteronomy 12:30). Sadly, this admonition was to no avail.
How easily some Christians forget their marriage vows, just like “the nations” around them. On the day of their wedding, the preacher said something like: “David, do you take Melissa to be your lawfully-wedded wife and promise to stand by her in happiness and adversity, in riches or poverty, in health or sickness, to love, cherish, and respect her from this day forward until death do you part?” Upon saying those little words, “I do,” in the presence of witnesses, they made a covenant with each other… and with God! When we say our vows, we promise to be faithful to our spouse “for better or for worse” and “until death do us part.”
Not Happiness, Rather Holiness
Sadly, some are quick to forget their promises. They justify divorce for any reason with the argument that “God wants me to be happy.” The problem with this way of thinking is that God has not called us to be “happy” but rather holy and to serve others, especially our spouse.
God’s purpose is not to give us everything that can make us happy in this life but everything that can bring us closer to Him, which includes trials and suffering. He allows these things to occur in our lives to remind us not to make our treasures on earth but in heaven (Matthew 6:19-20).
The main objective of this life, therefore, is not happiness but holiness, “without which no one will see the Lord” (Hebrews 12:14).
What is your objective in life?